I’m Hannah. I’m 24, fresh out of grad school and into the real world. I spend a significant amount of my time working me.
I’m not very interested in compromise because I don’t think that I will have a lot to offer as a person if I don’t constantly work on it. And that tends to come off as a selfish, and potentially off-putting statement, but I don’t think that selfishness is always a bad thing. I want to succeed in my career. I want to spend time doing things that I’m passionate about. And I want to make sure that I’m setting and working towards long-term goals. All of those things are selfish. They are solely focused on me. But what would I be offering if I didn’t work on them, possibly at the detriment to other things?
I think everyone should be selfish when it comes to what they want out of their lives, but it can come at a cost to personal relationships. Which is maybe not okay for everyone. I’m looking for partners that are okay with me being selfish. That want me to work on myself and push me to achieve my goals. I need someone who also has a lot of goals that they want to work on and don’t require a lot of time and energy poured into them, because they are also self-sustaining.
I don’t know what this looks like, but I’m in the process of trying to find out. It takes a lot of open, honest conversation, and a lot of self-awareness. I’m reading about it. And trying to find people living different lifestyles. And then I’m writing about it. Partly to get it out of my brain and into the world, and partly because there are other people out there searching for what works for other people and ideas on what could work for them.